Welcome to Loveology University’s sneak preview video course on Boundaries & Taboos. This in-depth course will teach you how to be compassionate, open, and non-judgemental when it comes to your client’s unique sexual expressions.
Rather than judging paraphilias and fetishes as negative or taboo, Sex Coaches should seek to help their clients in a sex positive way, rather than thought of as deviant or abnormal. Instead we see these fetishes as unique sexual expressions along a sliding continuum of diverse sexual practises. Many of the sexual practices that we see as “normal” today such as anal sex, masturbation and even BDSM, were once thought of as deviant, wrong and even illegal.
What is Taboo?
“One man’s delicacy is another man’s taboo.”—Doctor Who
Webster’s Definition of Taboo:
adj. Banned on grounds of morality or taste
What Sexual Taboo Means
Least Sexually Active Culture
Inis Beag (Anthropological name) (real name: Inis Oírr / Inisheer), an isolated Irish Catholic community on an island just off the coast of Connemara, Ireland, is considered be the most sexually repressed culture in the world. They live in accordance with sex as taboo. The sexual practices we considered normal are extremely taboo in their society including:
In Inis Beag, women are expected to endure sex and refusing intercourse is a mortal sin. Men believe that sexual activity weakens them and there is a high percentage of celibate males.
In Inis Beag, sex is so taboo is so powerful that although they are a fishing community and rely on fishing for survival, the people there don’t know how to swim, as swimming may requite showing skin or nudity. Therefore, if they are in a boating accident, they might die. The sexual taboo of Inis Beag is very powerful.
Most Sexually Active Culture
In contrast with Inis Beag, Mangaia is thought by anthropologists to be the most sexually active culture. Mangaia is the southern most island in the Cook Islands, near New Zealand. Boys and girls are encouraged to:
Have sex an average of three times day with as many partners as possible in as many positions as possible giving their partners 2-3 orgasms per sexual experience.
By comparing the two cultures, we can see that sexual activity and sexual responsiveness are culturally-patterned.
What is a Paraphilia?
Wikipedia describes a paraphilia as “(previously known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. Such attraction may be labeled sexual fetishism. No consensus has been found for any precise border between unusual sexual interests and paraphilic ones.”
Paraphilia (in Greek para παρά = besides and – philia φιλία = love)—in psychology and sexology, is a term that describes a family of persistent, intense fantasies, aberrant urges, or behaviors involving sexual arousal to nonhuman objects, pain or humiliation experienced by oneself or one’s partner, children, or nonconsenting individuals or unsuitable partners.
Degrees of Paraphilia
Some Interesting and Unusual Paraphilias
Don’t worry, it only seems kinky the first time. ~Author Unknown
A fetish is an object or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.
The use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person’s body to gain sexual excitement. Examples include:
History of Masturbation
Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure. ~Thomas Szasz
Masturbation was once thought of as a sin and a disease during the 18th and 19th centuries. Today it is celebrated as a natural, healthy act and even has its own month in May.
Masturbation has many health benefits!
Cultural Taboos About Anal Sex
Obscenity is whatever gives the Judge an erection. ~Author Unknown
2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) conducted study on over 12,000 men and women aged 15 to 44. They found:
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